Committed to Happiness! Are you?

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First off, let me tell you, I am committed to happiness.

Above all things in life, I most cherish being happy. When people ask me what I want in life? I have to ask them back, ‘You mean now, specifically? Or generally?’ And I often find them reframing their question, ‘What do you want to be in life?’

For the life of me, I don’t know!

I have a butterfly mind. For as long as I remember, I have flitted from one interest to another, one job to another, one place to another. I don’t stick. And I quiet pride myself in being footloose. I am averse to rigidity in any form of existence. For most part, I am fortunate to have lived life drumming to my own tune, so far.

So, when people ask me what I want in life? The answer is a lot simpler. “To be Happy!”

Mind you, I am no idealistic 12 year old. I have lived 4 decades pursuing joie de vivre; and I think I have done alright. I may not be the richest person or even the richest I could have been, but I sure am as happy as I could ever be. I am an architect, an educator, a writer and an artist. I have multiple streams of revenue, each of which I pursue with love and immense joy. Happiness is a conscious pursuit for me.

I am no Lama, but his words resonates within me.

Science agrees too….

I am often asked, ‘Don’t you feel guilty for being a rolling stone gathering no moss, but joy galore’?

The answer? ‘Nope’.

I know I don’t want to live a life of regret- a life of ‘what ifs’. I owe it to myself to explore all the wonder my heart fills itself with. There was a time when I tried to be a ‘grown up’, do what was expected, which simply translated to ‘do what everyone else is doing’. It was the most miserable part of my life. And then, I had a Scarlett O’Hara kind of epiphany, and I swore to myself that ‘I shall never be miserable again’.

Truth be told, it is difficult being happy if you are doing something you aren’t supposed to. So, when I say, I am committed to happiness. I am not sitting at home gorging on dark chocolates the whole day, or indulging in selfish acts of pleasure. I know, those are bound to leave me with a sense of ‘guilt’; and happiness cannot bloom alongside the weeds of guilt, regret or any kind of negativity.

A commitment to happiness involves doing my duty; being the best version of myself; loving myself; loving others; forgiving myself; treating others with kindness; cherishing and pampering myself; offering my time and resources to those in need; being immersed in nature; listening to my heart; sleeping, eating, resting, working in moderation; dancing; singing; making silly doodles; cracking jokes and LOL; reading comics, indulging in any kind of humour; spending time with children; spending time with pets; lending my time and ear to loved ones, even strangers (everyone needs love); never being in too much of a hurry to reach anywhere…. the list goes on.

I suppose it is different for everyone. My inner compass guides, and I simply follow. With time I have learnt to ‘read’ this compass and to trust it to guide me to righteousness and happiness. I am no master of joy. I still fumble and fall. But every time I fall, I get up, brush off the hurt and ridicule, suck at my thumb for a while (if I absolutely must) and tread ahead with child-like optimism.

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Children don’t take failure to heart. Life is one big experiment for them — to figure out what works and what doesn’t. As a grown up, I try not to trip on my ego and get all wound up.

What about you? How committed are you to your happiness?



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